Category: Wedding

Technically, it couldn’t feed any because a diamond engagement ring is not edible. However, you could turn it in for some cash and receive roughly 1/10-1/20th what I originally paid for it and then use that cash to fund some food programs. Does that mean that your diamond engagement ring is really worth what you paid for it? Well – the resell value for engagement rings is crap crap crap so I dunno. It’s not that the ring itself could end up feeding a lot of kids – it really is that the cash (or, to be perfectly honest, the credit) you forked over for it originally could feed a lot of African kids. But how many? How many starving African kids who love chihuahuas and Louis Vuitton bags could my engagement ring feed? I have always wanted to know this. Luckily, the World Food Program takes a look at celebrity engagement rings to let you know whats what.

You can donate here.

I can’t say that I perfectly agree with their method of outreach here. As a person who did purchase a diamond engagement ring, this idea of “you know what else you could have gotten?” complaint directed at me is fairly common. But I do support using white guilt as a way to get people to donate money to worthy causes. But if you really can afford a $5 million dollar engagement ring, I doubt you’d be stingy with your money – donations to charity are a good way to reduce your yearly taxes.

So Heidi and Spencer got married. You might not know them but I know them. I gossip so I’ve had to stare at their ugly mugs for the last two years. I wish they’d go away and I know that my talking about them means they won’t. But, well, they got married and I felt the need to blog about it.

Perez Hilton greet the “happy” bride and groom.

So the lovely “couple” supposedly eloped in Mexico five months ago. But it was all fake. It wasn’t legal, wasn’t recognized by either the US or Mexico, and was just a ploy for them to sell images to the gossip mags. They decided to get really married this weekend (well, to be honest, it could entirely be fake again) and it was filmed by MTV. The wedding wasn’t lovely and was rather generic and uncreative. And MTV did pay for the wedding which means the three wedding faux pas probably weren’t necessary. Wine and beer were free but 10 dollars for any other drink. Cocktail hour had little food and the reception was really sparse. The reception was suppose to start at 6 but the doors didn’t open till 7 and the couple didn’t show up till 9. These are 3 very big no-nos, in my opinion, and future brides and grooms should take note. Having a cash bar is fine in my opinion (but I’m not really a big drinker) but make sure the prices for the booze are reasonable and are on a sliding scale. A unique mixed cocktail from a very good bar can be 15 dollars so if you hired an awesome bartender, that’s understandable. However, a gin and tonic shouldn’t be more than 6 and the cash bar should reflect that. Also, show up to your reception on time. If not, make sure the doors open on time at least and keep people fed. My wedding will only be a light dessert reception but there’s going to be a lot of it to keep people fed. And my fiancee and I will be doing our pictures before the ceremony so that there is no delay between the reception and the I Dos. Showing up 3 hours after the reception was suppose to start is entirely unreasonable and stupid.

But that isn’t the whole story. When you hire someone to shoot your wedding, don’t accuse them of being a paparazzi during the cake cutting. Know who your venders are, get to know them, and if you’re an over the top, hold fake photoshoots all the time, and want a cut of every picture of you that gets sold, yelling at a photographer at your own wedding is pretty stupid. In fact, it’s more than stupid, it just shows how little you care about the actual wedding. Everyone right now is keeping tabs on how long this wedding will last. It’ll last as long as they’re both able to keep making money on their name and image. When the money dries up, they’ll both move on to other things.

And I promise this is the last time I will mention these two.

[via wedding chicks]

Ever since I got engaged and started planning my wedding, I’ve started to realize that wedding news is everywhere. I use to not pay that much attention to it but you can’t open a magazine, turn on the tv, or look outside without seeing something wedding related staring back at you. I sometimes miss the good stuff. Luckily my fiancee finds it and forwards it to me.

Recently, at a wedding in my borough of Queens in New York City, one of the guests (who was the groom’s boss) became drunk, hurled a drink at another guest, accused the bride of fucking up the life of the groom, and told everyone that she’s been sleeping with the groom while toasting the couple. So what did the bride do? She’s suing her. The bride says this guest ruined her special day. Supposedly, after the toast, seventy guests were asked to leave the reception. And the bride and groom didn’t spend their wedding night together and she can’t trust her husband (though they’re currently living together). The bride really does think her groom slept with her boss.

That sounds like a horrible day and I feel for the bride and groom. Well, I mostly feel for them. What I’m really curious though is why were 70 guests kicked out of the reception? If this was really the work of one woman, why wasn’t she just removed? Why was a large chunk of guests kicked out of the reception? That’s what makes me think that there is much more to this story than the lawsuit contends. But, all in all, it just shows that manning the guest list, keeping a close eye on who you invite, and maybe keeping the alcoholics away from the bar is probably one of the better things to do at a wedding. I know that every guest loves and open bar but not every guest is good when confronted with one.

Dr Pepper sponsored a wedding. This is a brilliant idea.

My fiancee came to my apartment right when I was reading this article. I looked up and asked her if Diet Coke could sponsor our wedding.

She said sure but only if we got an Orange Soda brand as well.

My fiancee and I aren’t carbon copies of each other. I have an identical twin so I never grew up wanting to marry a carbon copy. When you already share DNA with someone, you already are familiar with having someone in your life who likes what you like, does what you does, etc etc. So it’s pretty obvious that my fiancee and I would have differences and soda is one of them. I drink a lot of it (I grew up on diet). She doesn’t drink as much. Our cola wars involve Diet vs Orange.

So if Diet Coke is reading this, if you can get Orange soda involved, I’d gladly let you sponsor our wedding. We’re going to be spending enough money on you for beverages anyways. And if you want to wear giant sumo suits and wrestle each other, I’ll delay my first dance with my lovely new bride to watch you fight it out.

The details for one of the stain glass windows at my church

Okay, to be honest, I didn’t really pick it. My fiancee did. When we first started talking about getting married, she said that I could choose when we’re “officially” engaged but that we’re getting married on April 10 so I shouldn’t wait until after that to propose. She picked that date (and I completely agree with it) because our church, Trinity Lutheran Church, is awesome during Easter.

The white linens and banners, the lilies all over the altar, the cross, the pulpit, the choir loft, and the streaming sunshine illuminating the stain glassed windows that cover the building – Trinity is perfect in April. It’s not only a national landmark, it’s also a testimony to the German immigrants from Lower Manhattan who emigrated to Astoria in the late 1880s and built their own congregation. It’s a beautiful old building outmatched only by the warmness, openness, and love of the people who worship there. I was a little considered that my fiancee’s family would want us to marry in Florida (where her entire family is pretty much located) but her mom would have none of it. In a church as beautiful as ours, it’s hard to not get married in it.

April 10th will be the Saturday after Easter next year. Besides the liturgical significance of having a wedding during the Easter season, the large amount of flowers and decorations means we will have to spend 0 dollars decorating the ceremony space. Rather than waste time organizing a space to fit our needs, we rather let the space be a character in our wedding in its own natural way. There’s no need to create something to fill a picture – we’d rather let each piece (and our church is a piece of our lives) fit into our wedding celebration. And, after the ceremony, we’ll take all the Easter lilies we bought for the church (10 dollars a plant!) and move them downstairs for the reception. Wham, bam, easy decorations ma’am.

My job is on the fritz at the moment.

Like everyone in the country and the world right now, my work situation is screwy. Two weeks ago, all the programmers at my company were placed on a 2 week unpaid furlough due to crash flow problems. Last week, on pay day, all sorts of madness happened. I’m a permalancer so I’m in a fairly delicate position to begin with. No benefits, no unemployment, and I have no idea when I’m gonna be paid or not. It’s not the easiest place to be in but it works for me, to some degree. Last week, come pay day, all the programmers (and the people who are still at the company operating at a temporary reduced salary cap) kinda freaked out. Some went in to pick up paychecks to be told that they were mailed (even though they weren’t). Others were confused. I just sat around and was pleasantly surprised to find that I did receive a check in a mail. I didn’t expect that.

Today, I discover that some programmer’s had their checks bounce. Others were told that their checks had been mailed when, in reality, they had not and they were instead being held because our boss “had a family medical emergency” or some such. One of my coworkers called me up today to talk about work non-payment stuff. I was walking home from the gym (I’ve been to the gym everyday during my furlough after avoiding the place for 6 months). It was raining. He asked me about my wedding planning. He’s been married for five years and has a little one in the oven that is due in a few months. I told him all our big stuff had been booked – the venue, the reception hall, the photographer, etc. We’re just waiting for a few months before we get busy with decorations and all that.

He knows my fiancee and I are going to pay for it. And with all the shenanigans at my work, he’s aware that money is just going to be a problem. But at the end of the call, he said something that I found very touching. He said that I have the rest of my life ahead of me to make money and that I should just enjoy the time with my fiancee now as much as I can because this only comes around once. He doesn’t mean go into wild debt to throw a party or anything. He merely means to not stress too much, to relax, to enjoy being engaged, and to look forward to getting married to my special gal.

In this economy, that’s good advice for every groom.

Michelle Rodriguez is not the most stable celebrity on the face of the planet. She’s an alcoholic, she’s pretty violent, and she’ll go to extreme lengths to not-get-not-noticed by the paparazzi. We all know this. However, Michelle does bring up a good point when it comes to inviting people into your bridal party. If she behaves like Michelle Rodriguez did over the weekend, she probably shouldn’t be allowed to attend your wedding.

People tend not to take into consideration their wedding party’s member’s personal standards of behavior before they include them in their wedding. People don’t magically change just because they are placed in a situation where they’re given certain responsibilities or they’re suppose to act with some class. If a person misbehaves, has no class, or will push clothed guests into a pool, they’re not going to change just because they’re now wearing a bridesmaid dress. All they’re going to do is cause you problems.

My fiancee and I are keeping our wedding party very small. She’s having 1, I’m having one. Mine is my brother. Her’s is her best friend. These are both people we can trust and we are sure won’t break up a bachelorette party by yelling at the stripper, calling him fat and saying he has a small penis (though, in Michelle Rodriguez’s defense, the stripper did something incredibly tasteless but very typical in bachelorette parties and I fully support Michelle emasculating the fellow in front of others). If my brother was gonna be an imperfect person at my wedding, I wouldn’t have him in my wedding party. I don’t think that just because I’m getting married that anyone or anything should be assumed will happen. That leads to nonsense, drunken uncles falling into wedding cakes, and the bride and groom going on a bender and punching a cop in the face. There’s no need to bring a Michelle Rodriguez type character to your wedding unless you WANT her to act like they always do. And if you’re upset that they “ruined your wedding day”, I’m sorry but you invited them knowing what they usually do. What else could you expect?

My lovely fiancee received her first bridal magazine in the mail a few days ago. She was excited. She had ordered a couple a few months ago but they hadn’t arrived. She picked up a copy of Bridal Guide and, well, I read it first. She was busy on her computer and I wanted to see what these bridal magazines were all about.

I was flipping through and noticed that 95% of it contained ads for wedding dresses. Some were ok, most were bad, and I realized that I have a hard time looking at a wedding dress and figuring out what’s good/bad about it at first glance. I have to really study them. To me, they look like a white sheet at once and I tend to notice the woman wearing it before I notice what is actually being worn. Maybe I’ve developed an automatic mental process where I see a white gown, know its a wedding, and focus on who is getting married rather than on the dress that is getting married. Or maybe I just like looking at models and realizing which designers are high end just based on how attractive their models are. And I like looking at the ugly lighting, the waterfalls, and the stupid photoshoots where you can’t actually see the whole dress or the model is walking in a waterfall or something. If you’re getting married under a waterfall, spending $5000 dollars on your dress is probably not the smartest thing for you to do. Invest in a nice bikini and bolero.

But besides the dress ads, there was one ad that jumped out at me. It’s something I’ve noticed on bridal message boards and in blogs. People love monograms and I get why. It’s a way to personalize your wedding, show your unity as a couple, act as if you’re a member of the social and financial class that can afford monogram towels from LL Bean. I get it. What I don’t necessarily get is the need bedazzle your monogram ontop of your wedding cake.

Ugly ugly ugly and completely unnecessary. I understand that I am not the target audience for these type of cake toppers. I also understand that I’m not the type of guy who likes to wear a bunch of bling to get noticed in a crowd (though my old punk jacket shows I’m not completely foreign to the idea) but I find bedazzled monogramed cake toppers to be pretty tacky. It’s another shiny thing in an event where shiny things seem to be overloaded by brides and grooms. I, personally, want the marriage ceremony, my bride, and me, to be the brightest thing in the room. I don’t want to be outdone by a tacky monogramed rhinestone covered cake topper. And I definetly don’t want to keep a piece of cake jewelry in my house as a memento of my wedding. It might serve as an effective nightlight or as light source to fend off zombies but it’s going to be pretty weird hanging on my wall next to pictures of my big day. It shouldn’t be the first thing that catches your eye. That should be a general rule for all wedding decorations. They shouldn’t outshine you and they shouldn’t attempt to outshine you either. All details are just that; details to enhance the reception or ceremony and not to overpower. A giant bedazzled monogramed cake topper shouts is just like waving a pair of keys in front of a toddler. It’s a distraction. Instead, the decorations should be simple, subtle, and a cake topper should be one of those things that people notice when they stop looking at you and start looking for food. Unless you want to blind your invitees hoping they won’t eat the food and they’ll be driven back to their cars from whence they came. If that’s true, then get two of these things. More power to ya.

Yes that is my real first and middle name

So my fiancee and I are thinking about our invitations.

And we’re looking at Costco.

But this invite from Married by the Sea (via manolobrides.com( might be an even better choice.

We had a little chat on the subway yesterday about how to word the invitation and we’re still not sure how to do it. Since we’re paying for the event (well, most of it), we want to start out the invitation saying “With our parents, Kate and Marc would be honored at your presence at our wedding” or something along those lines. The problem is with the initial “our”. It bothers my fiancee. It doesn’t read right to her. Why do we start the invitation saying “our” but then seem to refer to ourselves in the third person for the rest of the invitation? Do the people not receiving the invitation know who we are? Are we so distant from them that they need to hear our full name again? And if that’s true, why are we inviting them in the first place?

My fiancee thought about throwing in “with their parents” but that didn’t sound right either and I’m still confused about what exactly to say. Maybe invitations have moved beyond needing to sound “right” but rather have a set convention that should be continued until “our parents” starts to sound 100% correct as language evolves and changes. I dunno. What I do know, however, is that 100 bucks for 125 invites is a good deal which is why we’re sticking with simple invitations I believe. My only concern is the quality of the printing job since I’ve never seen a Costco printed invitation before. If it’s anything like their cakes (which I have eaten a lot of – you can’t attend a church and not end up eating Costco cake), it should be adequate for the job.