Author: MASadmin

Brides are deciding what we wear? Excuse me grooms, but this is inexcusable.

There is nothing wrong with the blog post above. In fact, it’s extremely well put together. In it, a bride shares pictures of suits/tuxes and her rational for what her lovely groom will wear on his wedding day. She googles, she shops around, she makes an informed decision. She finds a tux rental look that she really likes (and I might steal depending on how my budget works out). I disagree on calling it hipster but that’s a minor detail. Being in New York and a bit of a fashion diva myself, hipster is a specific term for me. A tux without a cumberband isn’t hipster. It’s not vintage either. Rather, I’d call it modern. It’s a good look and, depending on how form fitting it is, it can be pretty fantastic. So why am I disappointed with that post? It’s this line specifically.

No offense to all of those brides that are choosing tuxedos for the menswear on their big day, but they are just not for my wedding.

Dudes. When did this happen?

Let Neil Patrick Harris help you help yourself!

We’re part of the patriarchy. We’re suppose to own the world. We make 25% more than our female counterparts, our professional sports teams dominate their women competition, we’ve served as the primary combat forces for 40,000 years. And yet, on our marriage day, we’ve given up our ability to dress ourselves. We can push a button and destroy the world but we crap our pants when it comes figuring out what kind of suit we should wear on our wedding day. And if you are one of the few who DO care, you’re considered weird, out of touch, and “different”. Shame shame shame.

An engaged groom can’t be like this. Having a look that goes with your bride is fantastic and should be encouraged on your wedding day. And if you are going the traditional route and not seeing her dress before the big day, her input on how to match her dress is extremely important. But that doesn’t mean that a groom should give up the opportunity to dress his best on his big day. Grooms across the world should be doing what that bride above did and not leaving it up to their bride to be. Research, learn, study, and pick up a Details or GQ every once in awhile. It’s what an engaged groom SHOULD do. Just because it is taught in our American society that the bride and her family control the big day doesn’t mean that is how it always should be. They’re taught at a young age that they might have to handle their own wedding planning. Us guys are suppose to stand back. But this the 21st century. I’m not here to write a blank check and not be involved. If I didn’t want to have any influence in my own life, I’d still live with my parents.

Pick your socks. Pick your shoes. Pick your suit. Pick your tux. Show them with your bride, get involved with her style, learn what “goes” and what matches when you’re a couple on your big day. Since I’m going to be spending the rest of my life being asked “How do I look?” by my future wife, shouldn’t I at least have some knowledge and know what I’m talking about? Otherwise how will my “You look fine” ever really be honest? Fashion knowledge is useful knowledge people. And it’s about time grooms are forced to learn it.

Sometimes its good to put your reception ideas in blog form. Why? Because then your fiance reads about your idea to include ice cream sandwiches at your reception and he suddenly dreams of having coolers filled with ice and ice cream sandwiches. The big drinkers reach their hands into the buckets expecting a cold beer but find an ice cream sandwich instead. Disappointed but not unexpected, said drinker unwraps the ice cream sandwich and enjoys it. Later in the evening, his/her liver jumps out and thanks the groom and bride for one afternoon off. There might even be a high five involved. More ice cream sandwiches need to be served at wedding receptions. I’d totally crash more if that was true.

Married on MySpace Trailer

A couple of days ago, Myspace spammed everyone who was listed as “engaged” with an email telling them about a new Myspace reality show. The premise is very basic. A couple lets Myspace tv cameras follow them around while they plan their wedding day. The trick (and there is always a trick) is that myspace members get to vote on every little detail of the wedding from the gown to the first dance. My fiancee’s first reaction was “OH HELL NOOOOOOOOO” and my first reaction was “She’s going to end up in a fur suit”.

You can tell who’s the weird one in our relationship.

My guess, however, is that the show won’t let all Myspace members decide what options the couple gets to choose. My guess is that there will be four gowns that will be picked by producers or the couple and then Myspace members vote which one is best. That makes the show less fun (for the viewers) but a better sell to couples. I would probably smack someone if my first dance was to a Shania Twain song (but I’d totally rock a Dr Demento song). But I would take some perverse joy in watching a goth couple dancing to an Aqua song. Who wouldn’t?